Baby Care: Everyone has an opinion—what am I to do?? 🩷 From a Homesteading Doula 🌻🌼
When you bring a new baby into the world, you quickly realize that everyone has something to say about how you should care for them. From well-meaning relatives to advice from online forums, it can feel overwhelming trying to figure out what’s truly best for you and your little one. So many voices, so many different approaches, and it’s hard to know which one to listen to. Well, mama, take a deep breath. This blog is here to guide you through the early days of caring for your newborn, and I promise, by the end, you’ll feel empowered and confident in your own instincts.
The Fourth Trimester: Why It Matters
The first few weeks after birth can be incredibly daunting, but they’re also a beautiful and precious time. This period, often called the fourth trimester, is a time of adjustment for both you and your baby. Your little one has spent months in the womb, and now, they are adjusting to the world outside. This is the time for bonding, for establishing routines, and for learning about each other.
Your baby’s needs are simple: love, comfort, nourishment, and security. You don’t need a million pieces of advice from everyone around you. Instead, you need the confidence to follow your own instincts, which will guide you better than any external advice can. This is where I come in—as your guide to nurturing your baby and your postpartum journey with gentle care.
What Your Baby Needs, and How to Navigate the First Few Weeks
Nourishment and Nursing
One of the most common questions new moms have is: How often should I nurse my baby? First, remember that your baby’s appetite will vary. Some days they may nurse every hour, while others may go a little longer between feeds. Trust your baby’s cues. Don’t worry about the clock—if they’re hungry, they’ll let you know. It’s totally normal for your baby to want to nurse frequently, especially in the first few weeks. This is a time of growth for them, and frequent nursing helps establish your milk supply.Handling Well-Meaning but Unhelpful Company
When you’re in the early days of motherhood, everyone seems to have an opinion. From advice on breastfeeding to what color clothes your baby should wear, unsolicited advice is often overwhelming. It’s okay to smile, nod, and politely decline to follow their suggestions. You’re the expert on your baby, and you know what feels right for you. While advice can be helpful, your instincts are invaluable. It’s your journey, and your way is perfect for your baby.Bathing and Changing Baby
Bathing a newborn can be a little nerve-wracking, but it’s also a beautiful, bonding experience. Keep bath time simple and soothing—no need for any fancy products. A small tub or a sink with warm water will do just fine. You don’t need to bathe your newborn every day; two to three times a week is perfect in the beginning. As for diaper changes, expect a lot of them! Newborns often need their diapers changed every two to three hours, so keep a steady supply of wipes, diapers, and a cozy space ready for these moments.What’s Normal? Baby’s Bowel Movements
It’s easy to stress about whether your baby’s bowel movements are normal, but remember: babies’ poops vary a lot! In the first few days, they’ll pass meconium, a dark, tarry substance. After that, you may see mustard-colored, seedy poop if you’re breastfeeding. Formula-fed babies often have thicker, less frequent stools. As long as your baby seems content, is feeding well, and is gaining weight, you’re doing just fine.Making Your Own Way
It’s easy to compare your experience to others, especially when family and friends start offering unsolicited advice. But here’s the truth: your way is the best way for you and your baby. Your mama instincts are powerful. Trust them. Maybe your friend had success with one sleep routine, but it’s not working for you. Maybe your mother-in-law swears by a certain swaddle technique, but your baby prefers something else. That’s okay. You are the expert on your baby, and you get to decide what works best for both of you. You don’t have to follow anyone else’s path. Take what resonates with you from the generous advice people offer and leave the rest.
You’ve Got This, Mama!
It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed with all the advice, all the opinions, and all the new responsibilities that come with caring for your newborn. But you are more than capable. Trust your instincts, listen to your heart, and know your way is perfect for your baby. The first few weeks may be challenging at times, but they’re also filled with the sweetest moments of connection and growth. You’ve got this, mama. Your baby is so lucky to have you.
Don't hesitate to reach out if you ever feel uncertain or need support during this stage. I’m here to guide you with love and care. And don’t forget to sign up for my blog, where I share tips on natural pregnancy, birth, and postpartum care every week.
Sending love and encouragement to you on this beautiful journey. 🌻🌼